Christian marriage counseling has helped many couples repair damaged relationships. The Bible has a lot to say about love and marriage. Even those of other faiths can recognize and benefit from it’s timeless wisdom and if you are a Christian you might be a lot more comfortable getting help from someone with similar beliefs.
If you’re marriage is crumbling around you, Christian marriage counseling can often help. But, as with any kind of counseling, there are some questions to ask before you commit to a counselor.
First of all, you need to be a little picky when choosing a counselor. You may want to come up with two or three possible choices and then ask if you can set up a brief initial consultation to make sure everybody is a good fit. Since the counseling process will probably be an ongoing thing for at least a while, it’s fair to ask for this. Most reputable counselors will be OK with this. If they aren’t you may want to keep looking.
Questions To Ask
When you get to the initial “interview” there are a few things it is important to go over. This doesn’t have to take very long, but it’s important that you feel OK with the answers.
First,Christian or not, it is fair to ask them what their success rate is. I know this may sound a little hard nosed, but your marriage is not something to play around with. Counselors are just like anybody else, some are good at what they do and some aren’t. You can’t afford to take this for granted, you have to ask. You probably won’t be able to get references due to the confidential nature of a counseling relationship, but you can at least gauge their response to your questions.
Also, since they are offering Christian marriage counseling, it’s a good idea to try to find out if their beliefs are at least similar to yours. There are some pretty big differences in the details of what Christians believe. If your views and the counselor’s are too far apart it may make it very hard for you to rally get any value from the counseling. Of course, you also have to remember if you had all the answers you probably wouldn’t need counseling. Sometimes a slightly different viewpoint can help you see the truth.
What Do They Mean By “Christian Marriage Counseling”?
You also may want to clarify whether, by “Christian marriage counseling” they mean that their counseling is from a Biblical perspective, that they are a Christian themselves or that they market their services to Christians. That doesn’t mean that any of these answers are bad, just that you need to understand what their perspective is. If you are expecting a counselor to use the Bible as a foundation for the counseling and they never mention a single verse you may be very disappointed in your choice. On the other hand if all they do is quote scriptures and never give you any practical ways to relate them to your situation that isn’t good either. The easiest way to find out where they stand is to just ask them what part the Bible plays in their counseling methods.
You may have other questions you want to ask. If so, make sure you are OK with the answers. You need to realize that you might not find the “perfect” counselor. It is probably a good idea to wait until you have talked with at least two or three before you make a decision about Christian marriage counseling..
All of this might seem like overkill, but taking the time to go through this process can really help make sure that you have the best chance for success. It’s just a good idea to ask these questions when you decide to commit to marriage counseling, even Christian marriage counseling.
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